Time’s up…!

There comes a time when you have to draw a line in the sand and let people know that their place is now on the other side. Yeah, you might be hurt or in your emotions right now but you gotta just deal with it. Your time is up! Time waits on no man, or should I say: no one. It’s constantly moving, progressing. The older I get the more I realize that there’s; my time, your time and then there’s Gods time and Gods timing is perfect. The part that sucks is when you’re not ready… key word here: ‘you’. We, I mean, I gotta learn how to move outta Gods way… it’s easy said than done though.

Recently, I’ve come to the realization that some people are seasonal and no matter how long they’ve been around. When they are moved out of the way you have to know that Gods plan is at hand and you have to let go. Yes, sometimes it’s hard, really hard to move or let go. But, the more you try to mend, fix or hold on to it/then God will make the relationship more uncomfortable for you, very, very uncomfortable. Trust, if God wants you to move He will push you 👌🏾, like make you stumble and fall push.

For years, when going jean shopping I’d pick multiple sizes and styles to see which one fits the best or looks good on my body type. I can’t take them all just the ones that fit and sometimes every couple months I need new sizes depending on if my weight fluctuates😏 (God bless the person who made Lycra). So you see, change and growth is inevitable! It MUST happen. People should grow, change, and evolve based on the circumstances of life. The adaptation teaches you what you like and don’t like, what to pick up and what to put down (I pick things up and I put them down 😂). If you’re still the same person you were 5, 10, or 15yrs ago you haven’t grown, matured or lived for that matter. The same goes for platonic or monogamous relationships. They should grow with every situation thrown at it either getting closer together, forming a stronger bond or it will fall apart because it can’t withstand the challenges it brings.

One more example; this one might make the saints question me but… whatever, I wasn’t always saved! Just like with wine, whiskey or cognac, when it’s first produced it has a sharp edge to it. It’s good enough to drink but it could be even better after it’s aged over time. The aging increases not only the flavor but the value and most of all gives you an intense smooth flavor. So, basically what I’m trying to say is if you have fruit that’s going to spoil; throw it out or make wine with it before the times up! LOL

You’re a Hypocrite!

By definition a hypocrite is:

A person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

Also known as:

An actor, backslider, pretender, Pharisee, fraud, poser, con artist, two-faced

and the list goes on.

Recently, maybe in the last 2 weeks or so I’ve been called this twice 😳. Dang! I thought to myself maybe there may be some truth to this. I also had to consider the person delivering the message before I considered it’s validity. The 2nd time really hurt and I was taken a back because the person is a confidant/friend.

It kept me up thinking in what ways have I fallen short of the glory of God? How can I correct it and do other ppl have this same view point of me? Does it matter the person who said as to whether it should take an affect on me? Bible says that we all fall short of the glory right? Sometimes it seems that when you’re a Christian that people don’t leave you any room for error, absolutely NONE! Whether your a ‘Seasoned saint or a new believer’ people will attack your moral character, it’s as if your entire being is on blast to be scrutinized. I started thinking is this being said because I no longer fit into the box that they once had me in. I’m no longer the person they want me to be? Sometimes my relationship with Jesus can make my old friends/family/associations uncomfortable. I can’t and sometimes shouldn’t do, say or partake in those things I used to🤷🏾‍♀️.

-Saul became Paul.

-The woman at the well became a witness and evangelist

-Peter turned his back on God in the final hour.

These people had direct and indirect contact with Christ and it was still hard for them to stay in line with His commandments. Now I’m not making excuses for me missteps or short comings but it just goes to show you that; “we fall down but we get up” 😂😂. Now that’s not to say that I’m not open to correction but is it being done in love? Are the intentions to hurt, tear down or to make yourself feel good about you and your short comings? Is there sincerity behind it? Will I be edified afterwards?

People in the back, lean in right quick for a second:

“I’m NOT perfect I’m just SAVED”!!

Yes, I’m saved because I believe that Christ died on the cross for my sins. It means that everyday I’m striving to remain holy and acceptable to Christ not YOU booboo👌🏾 so Shut All The Way Up! Just like staying fit requires a lifestyle change. A change in your food choices, your physical activity the same for Christians. It’s a lifestyle of worship, it’s a daily walk- heart thing. It means that I don’t have it altogether but everyday I’m striving towards it here on earth until I get to heaven. So ease up, back off, mind your business and don’t watch me, watch TV, matter a fact hold up the mirror to yourself and ask God to show you you. This walk with Christ is hard enough without people judging me.

Seriously though, what I’m saying is I’m working on being a better me everyday, some days are harder than others and I may slide back a little or maybe a lot 🙈. So, remember that before you call me out my name that you need to check yourself and it’s best that you don’t come for me unless I send for you because I ain’t all the way delivered yet😑🙈.

Pray for ya girl I need it and I’ll pray for you🙏🏾

Most Valuable Player

What’s the difference? I mean aren’t they the same thing? What’s the big difference between a Father & Dad?

Most kids don’t run into their ‘fathers’ arms they run to ‘daddy’. My kids don’t say: “father father can we, will you, I want”. No, they say daddy and that’s how I refer to him as well unless I’m sometimes saying: “go ask ya father!’ I’m not sure kids even know the difference until their into their teenage years. To me they’re just not the same.

Father: biological parent to a child. Some refer to him as the donor, child support provider (most of you hope) or baby’s daddy. For the most parent it’s viewed with negative connotation which is why I don’t use any of them.

Dad/ Daddy: An active participant in the upbringing, growth and development of their child(ren). One who provides physical, emotional, spiritual support with love.

*See also characteristics of father but not necessarily nor is it essential (for all you stepdads and boyfriends that have picked up the slack so to speak).

Well all I can say is that my kids have both a father and a dad or as they would say daddypooh or the other long list of endearing terminologies.

Growing up we had both parents in the home during my elementary years. Both my parents worked hard to provide. We didn’t have name brands or eat lobster and steak everyday but we were fed bathed and clothed- the essentials. My dad put the fear of God in us without having to say a word. He was fun, took us for drives just because which usually meant ice cream or Mickey D’s or just hang out, all of us on the bed watching westerns and animal planet (which I haven’t really ever watched since his passing 17 yrs ago). He also could def cook better than my mom (don’t worry she knew that 😉). What I didn’t know about my dad until he passed was that he was a dad to so many others. I mean where did he find the time between work, traveling and being home with us🤷🏾‍♀️. I had no idea that my dad was being spread so thin it’s like he had over 10 children (nieces, nephews) not including us that he was helping to fix cars, buy clothes and giving money to and who knows what else. Even 10+ years after his death I’ve had family members say ‘he was our favorite uncle he was like a father to us and we still miss him’. As his daughter it’s an honor to hear the legacy that he has left behind in the heart of so many others. I guess that’s why I prayed so hard for my kids about the dad they’d have and God came through🙌🏾 WON’T HE DO IT!!!.

In this area I chose well ☺️. He’s a willing and active participant, and sometimes too much even telling me how to parent 😏🙄. Even in utero he was there when we found out it was twins not sure if he was more excited than I was or not. He bought me a car and built up cribs and was very attentive- which means he bought me pizza and ice cream when ever I wanted 😁. I got a car (so I didn’t have to ride the train 🤢), belly talk, spa treatments, foot rubs, ice cream galore and even a baby moon to Disney. He changed diapers and gave baths. Always there for every year for the first day of school, attends all events and school meetings good, bad or indifferent. Provides whatever they need even when I say no. Watches them while I go to class, bible study and even when I went on my most recent solo trip (even though he cheated a bit bringing them to my mom and sister😆). He helps with homework and school projects but most of all he spends time making them laugh. Sometimes its annoying how good the twins relationship is with their dad. Must have been the same feeling my mom felt about me with my dad (sorry mom 😔). Their built in best friend from the start who loves them unconditionally💕.

Hey I can’t complain especially when I hear or see up close what some women go through with their kids fathers. Begging to get them to give $50/month to feed their kids or spend time with them. Quitting jobs jut not to pay , have their passports taken away and still not paying. Breaking their babies heart when they just don’t show up 😔. We actually get along pretty well and can come in agreement with regards to most things regarding our kids.

Everyday, week and month that goes by we get better about how we co-parent and for that I’m grateful. Grateful for the mutual respect that we have for each other even after our divorce. Is it perfect everyday? Nope but I believe we are doing the very best we can to provide a loving environment that allows the kids to grow to healthy individuals regardless of whether we are together or not. I wouldn’t trade him for the world! When it comes to our team (entire village) I can say with confidence that he is our MVP🏆.

So, a special shout out goes out to: Amira & Gavin’s DADDY!! Happy Father’s/ Daddy Day, we Love ya!

*yes, I can love him even though we’re divorced.

Happy Father’s & Daddy’s Day to all you awesomedads out there!